Writing messages on dating sites
Two common approaches to invite a response are either asking a question or making a joke the person can expand upon.
Furthermore, do not "wink," "poke," or "heart" if your dating website has the option; this gives off the impression that although you are interested, they will have to do all the work.
Your first message determines the initial impression you make, and only about one-third of first messages even receive a reply.
If you have a sense of humor, laughter almost always works in your favor.
Expressing amusement shows you have a sense of humor, and the casual nature of these terms allows you to "lower your guard," in a sense. You should also avoid writing a boring autobiography explaining who you are; if people are interested they can read your profile or ask.
And do not suggest the two of you meet up, or even exchange numbers or email addresses.
A good first message might look something like the following: "What?!
You run marathons but 'movie marathons' is your favorite activity… " A generic greeting, improper grammar, and a shallow pick-up attempt all make this a terrible first message.
Take care, however, not to let your vulnerability give way to desperation; this will not work in your favor.