Understating online dating
So many flavours and tastes to experience, they become inundated with choice to the point that they just don’t know what they want anymore. Rejection is a massive part of life and is a prerequisite for success in any domain—however, that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t or shouldn’t affect us.
I’m always at my most happiest when I’m spending my time and energy focusing on the aspects of my life within my control.
It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.
I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.
We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case. First dates that last longer than a few hours are awkward. Rather than sit quietly in the dark for 2 hours listening to each other breathe? Why don’t we go somewhere where we can, I dunno, TALK and get to know one another? Something even the cool guys who are sort of good at online dating don’t seem to understand: you have to also ask me about me. If there is a woman in your picture, you don’t look available. Maybe we could start by like having *a* drink or *a* coffee or going on *a* walk, rather than get together for a picnic then a sunset cruise followed by picking our wedding venue?