One of my biggest fears is becoming another murder statistic: someone for the media to posthumously misgender, leading the public to believe that I somehow deserved to have my life taken away.In the wake of these tragedies, I try to to nix my own feelings of dread and shame as soon as I meet a person.I constantly have to juggle other people’s hangups around gender, sexuality, and race simultaneously.I’m surprised at how often I encounter people — typically cisgender men — who don’t understand what transgender means, even in a world where Caitlyn Jenner and Laverne Cox make headlines."Men who are into trans women who want to keep us a secret and are afraid if someone thinks they are gay, they're insecure as fuck. He had just moved to Atlanta from Chicago and had this whole stereotypical macho thing about him.
So far this year, at least 18 trans women have been killed in the U.Now I typically come out via text message or on my online profiles.It’s not very personal, but it lessens the possibility of a more life-threatening situation. A few people — both men and women — have had a sense I was trans before I even told them. We’d just met, so I can only imagine the infinite possibilities swirling in his head.He was an amateur MMA fighter, came from the hood — apparently a former gang member, as I learned later. We’re the dirty little secrets who get calls only after hours.
” or the misguided “I’m not gay.”These misconceptions don’t just negatively affect the trans women involved.