This is part of building a "connection." You may think of it as "building rapport," or something similar.And since we are - again - indirectly searching for these things, we might consider that a bit of a "game," too.I was just talking to one of my female friends today about this, and she used to subscribe to a "service" where you would actually be given coaching before you go on a date. But a good one, because if she were to ASK those same questions, she might have gotten any number of answers. " If you were a woman, you might point out convenient parts of your connection and gently 'suggest' that you two could "do something..." ...They would give you relevant news stories to talk about, and each one of those stories was chosen so that you could find out the important things about your date, like if they wanted kids, like pets, etc. STEP #3: Commitment This is the step where you get to take your connection to the next level. "Sometime." We put these things out there lightly like this to minimize our risk of getting hurt (i.e., getting rejected or turned down). But again, it's a GOOD game in that it gives us the freedom to explore possibilities and still feel safe at the same time.If you're a guy trying to get a date with a woman, you'll probably need to get some level of commitment from the woman, usually by getting her phone number so you can reconnect and move up to a date. STEP #4: Action Now that you've gotten them to commit to doing something with you, it's time to make them take ACTION. The small games we had to play to get here are now acknowledged as being okay, because they got us to the goal of finally getting together with someone so that we can now - hopefully - drop the games and get REAL with the other person.
It could be a sales relationship between you and possible client or customer...
For a girl, it might be getting her friend to introduce her to a guy. Some people call this being "indirect," but it's still a kind of game.
Whatever the means, we know that the first start has to start with an introduction or approach of some kind. And since we use a variety of methods to get over our fears of rejection and our shyness, you might have to call these methods 'games.' After all, when was the last time you walked up and told someone exactly what you were thinking and why you wanted to meet them? STEP #2: Connection After you meet a new person, whether it's for friendship or more, the next thing we need to do to create a friend is to find something in common.
It's taken me 5 years to learn all the best ways to handle difficult social situations, and I put everything I knew into this program.
When we start socially interacting with another person, our instincts will tell us everything we need to know about them in just a few seconds - IF you know what to look for. After all, this is what most of your brain evolved to do - to figure other people out!
I knew a lot of girls at the time that I really didn't want to date, but these girls also told me they felt that sense of "I'm so confused... " Stay with me here, because I want to give you some information that will clear some of this up for you...