Online dating advice women over 40 tips for dating profiles
Their answers help me tailor a program that helps them attract their ideal match.
Are they unknowingly putting up guards that turn men off?
Mantras are words that are repeated with the purpose of aligning your thoughts with nature.
If yogis have been repeating Sanksrit words for centuries surely the average woman can change a couple negative words around every now and then. Instead of using phrases like “no, but” try to replace your wording and thoughts with “yes, and…” Even if the negative mantra is only in your head, “I’m too old to find a man,” or “I’m too fat, if I lost 10 lbs.
It’s not a universal problem, it is due to their location, their status, their career, their divorce/kids/etc. If they believe that there are no good men around them they definitely will not see them.
When you train your brain to be biased towards seeing a particular outcome that will become your reality.
The image of men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s chasing after women half their age has driven many woman over 40 into my office.
Are there men who will seek out a younger woman given the opportunity? Is it a reality that by the time a woman reaches 65 her gender outnumbers single men 2 to 1? So are those the biggest factors that contribute to women over 40 having a hard time finding a match. In my 10 years as an online dating coach it’s become clear that the reasons why older women fail at online dating can be broken down into 4 major factors: mindset, lifestyle, chivalry, and algorithms.
I often hear clients say, “There are no good men in ______.” (Insert whichever city, the problem is the same.) The client believes that since they haven’t been able to find good men or they aren’t approached by as many men as they were in their 20s or 30s that it means that the well of good men in their town has totally dried up.
Also, half of the top 1% are already married so that reduces her pool even further.
Now, when we start getting into geographic restrictions, religious and political preferences and down right attractiveness, you can see how this pool of eligible bachelors suddenly becomes very small.
So let’s look at the numbers: Her salary puts her in the top 1% of earners nationwide.