Forget that stuff about playing hard to get, expecting the man to pay, and never having sex on a first date. “I cook a mean paella and I’ll always try to make you laugh” is good, but “I have a fantastic job and no-one can understand why I’m single” is not.
Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.
Here are seven old-fashioned dating rules and traditions we should bring back.
Back in the day, there was something special about bonding over the phone rather than over text.
Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about."Small gestures show that someone is caring and considerate, and many [people] will give a [person] a second chance," matchmaking and dating expert Stef Safran tells Bustle.By taking stereotypical assumptions out of these gestures, they can definitely be used today."In this day and age of electronics and 140 text characters, it is so rare to get a hand-written note," relationship coach Martin Kupper tells Bustle."With texting, people hide behind their phones instead of extending the sweet gesture of a call," matchmaker Rori Sassoon tells Bustle.Instead of relying so much on texting, Sassoon says to jump on the phone, and discuss your day that way.
It doesn't always have to be flowers, but by giving your partner a small gift, it lets them know you're thinking about them.