Dating a heavy set man
If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have money, or some sort of power otherwise.
Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right?
The fact that this myth is the most popular of the 6 given answers—34 of the 100 people originally surveyed gave this or a similar answer—is troubling in and of itself.
This myth is something we see play out throughout the various facets of American culture, whether it’s movies or politics or pop culture.
Don't try to reason it out and don't guilt-trip yourself. And this man just doesn't light my fire in that way.I'm attracted to nearly everything about him but his size.Weighing in, in Washington Dear Weighing in, You haven't gotten this far by pretending. So I suggest what you do is go in your backyard and sit quietly and meditate on the fact that you are not turned on by this fat man. If you come to the feeling that you have to end it, then end it. Or maybe you meditate on it and it continues to intrigue you and so you stay with him for a while. You've gotten this far by being straightforward and honest, and I suggest you continue being straightforward and honest. It has its paradoxes and corollaries as well -- we are freaked out about skinny, and we are freaked out about food, and the planet, and the body and money and exercise and power. Meditate on the fact that you like him very much but he doesn't turn you on. If you come to the feeling that you want to stay with him for a while more, then stay with him for a while more. Maybe you meditate on it and the answer that comes is that it's just not right for you.
This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all of their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.