Asbergers dating syndrome
You should fill out a safety plan so you know what you will do if things get out of hand.
Recently I encountered a problem while collaborating with a group therapist with whom I share a patient.
In fact, initially he presented as many of my patients do: shy, articulate, witty. In fact, "Joe", as we'll call him, socialized quite well.
Yet they feel shut out, left pining for connection with this special person who remains unreachable.
It can be a confusing relationship, and one that can easily lead to resentment. When Joe would make an insightful comment during group session, this group therapist and members would share a hearty laugh, rolling their eyes that this sensitive man had been diagnosed as autistic. Shouldn't you be indifferent and focusing on dinosaurs? After a long day of running what he terms his "social program", feigning natural banter and hiding anxiety, he is exhausted.
So what was the problem I ran into with the collaborating therapist? When Joe would tear up recounting his wife's rage and disappointment, he'd hear "So Mr. " (I'm sorry to say this is a direct quote.) The general public, even many clinicians, cannot believe someone like Joe can be autistic. His wife comes home to a man who has retreated to isolation as a desperate attempt to find peace and rest.
My husband calls me names for two reasons, I think. I’d like to add that when we are going through a string of arguments or abusive conversations (aka, “bad days”), he doesn’t use my name at all. He’ll refer to me as “your daughter-in-law,” “your mother,” “you,” or any other way he can EXCEPT by saying my name.
In his mind, the best way to stay in complete control is to erase from existence the one questioning him – me.
If your resulting AQ score was above 31 then you may want to follow up with a medical practitioner to do further tests in order to determine 100% if you do have an ASD or aspergers.